Moving along

It's been slow but productive few weeks. We sent out all our requests for reference letters. We started to get back child abuse clearances from our many states.

We've finished our 10 hours of parenting training now required by the Hague treaty. Our agency recommended Heart of the Matter seminars, which is run by two adoptive moms, one a teacher and one a social worker. The DVDs are basically recordings of one of their all-day seminars, but it was so much information we were glad to spread it out over a couple of week. They did a great job, really excellent information about how lacking a family causes changes in brain development and how we can help to fill in those mental and emotional building blocks with hard work once our kids get home. We did many of these things with Gus without knowing how important they were, and now they're just a part of our parenting style (bonus!). We'd be happy to lend our our videos if you're interested.

We finished researching medical needs. Well, for now--I'm sure there will be more researching once we have a referral. We have a list with which we feel pretty comfortable and will be giving it to our social worker to write into the homestudy at our next meeting.

We also had a reminder about how life will probably be for the first several weeks with a child who doesn't know us and doesn't want to be here. A good friend of ours went into premature labor and called us to take her 3-year-old for the night while her husband rushed back into town. Gus is good friends with this little girl, and she knows us reasonably well, but she still didn't want to be here with us for the night and we were the wrong people to comfort her. It'll be like that, probably, when the next munchkin comes home, only harder. Better to be prepared than not.

Next week is hopefully our first doctor's appointment. We wanted to do it this week but then I got sidelined by a nasty virus. Mostly better now, and hoping to move more quickly next week.